6 Ways To Practice Self Care And Stay Focused On Your Future
It`s a well known fact that people can react to events in their lives very differently to that of others.
Sometimes things happen in life that can change you and those around you forever, but says a lot about who you are on how you manage to deal with any adverse situations you are presented with.
Another factor here is where you place your focus. It can be so easy to dwell on the past, adopt a negative mindset and get stuck wondering what might have been. Is this really what you should do?
If you are really being honest with yourself, the way to move forward and create happiness in life is not to stand still or wallow in self pity.
Here we take a look at 6 ways to practice self care and stay focused on your future, not on your past.
1. You’re Still Here
If at some point in time you are reflecting on past events, there’s one thing that you can always find some appreciation for. You’re still here! That means that whatever has come before you, whether it was a massive obstacle or defeat, that event didn’t end you.
You’re still here, and that says a lot about how resilient you can be. It’s important to realize that people are remarkably good at coming out on top of what they might find themselves up against.
The fact that you can read this right now is a testimony to that.
You might want to know what comes next, and that’s completely normal. The next steps to try to find more things that you can be happy about.
2. Practice Gratitude
The first step to really getting grounded and centred would be for you to spend some time focusing on what you are grateful for.
There are lots of ways to do this, but one of the best would be for you to write a gratitude journal. This will give you the ability to look at the list after you have completed it.
This will allow you to see everything that you can think of and set your mind to thinking about that instead of the things you wish had taken place in the past. Recognising and making gratitude a habit could be one of the best things you introduce into your life.
Pick ten to fifteen of your favourite things you are grateful for and maybe try to add to this list a few more things each week.
3. Accept Negativity As Lessons
It can be very frustrating when you have put time and effort into certain relationships only to find that the person or those people you invested in were never what or who they said they were.
This can be extremely jarring, and it might take a long for you to get over. However, the more effort you make to get over it and practice in some self care, the happier you will be in the long run.
The healthiest way to look at these kinds of things is to treat them the way you would treat a lesson you learned in a school program.
They’re not always the most pleasant, but you can take what you learned about people in that situation and use it to protect you from similar happenings in the future.
This doesn’t mean that you colour every interaction with other people with the same feelings towards them as the people you encountered in the past, it’s more about awareness and avoiding giving people the same kind of unchecked power over you, and your emotions.
Being completely frozen with fear and building a wall around yourself will be counterproductive.
4. Learn To See A Better Future
When you begin to see yourself and your future in a more positive light, it’s a lot easier to see possibilities that can be open to you.
Instead of thinking about where things went wrong, you can choose to use past experiences to prepare you for the kinds of things that can go wrong, and be ready for them instead of taken by surprise.
When you have a better outlook and a winning mindset, it’s a lot easier to attract more positive things in life.
If you’ve committed to making a few positive changes in life that can help you achieve goals, then it’s important to figure out how to lay the path that allows you to get there.
5. Plan For Future Goals With A List
In order to make your goals more solid to yourself, it’s a really good idea to try making a list. That will allow you to see all of the things you want each day.
The more focused on those things you become, the more likely it will be that you are motivated to make sure that they come true.
Having the list also means that you can put the goals into an order of most important to least important so that you know what you should be spending most of your time pursuing.
6. Distance Yourself From Toxic People
Unfortunately, this part of the article will be the hardest for a lot of people. A lot of people tie their worth to the amount of relationships they have even when the people in their lives aren’t the most positive or supportive people. This can be a huge impediment to progress, both professionally and personally.
The best thing to do is to assess each relationship you have and find out if those friends have been toxic, self-esteem damaging people, or alternatively if they have been good, uplifting friends that have helped give you a boost and see yourself in a healthier way.